Have you ever experienced the disappointment that comes from unfulfilled New Year’s resolutions and bucket lists left untouched?
While it's completely normal to have personal plans and goals evolve over the passage of time, if the original thought has been completely forgotten after penning it down, this might be a sign that something, somewhere, is misaligned with what you truly wish for.
This can often lie in the language we use to express our desired states, and below you'll find a short list of a a few things you can take note of when starting on your next list, it’s all in or nothing, so make it count!
Be intentional with every single word
It is important to know what you are writing with awareness of the end goal and definitive language plays a big part in this. Instead of writing ‘I wish’ or ‘I will’, go with ‘I am’ or ‘I have’. Writing your words down with conviction in definitive language makes your words feel easily brought into experience and keeps you accountable in actually bringing them into fruition.
Think “I want to eat healthier” versus “I am eating healthier” or “I have a healthy body”. Embodying the end state is a great way to battle imposter syndrome that often accompanies seemingly lofty goals.
Set at least one milestone in your goal
Milestones can look like a set timeframe or a routine/action that can help you build up momentum into bringing your goal into fruition. When writing your goal, it is good to add in a milestone for quick checks on how far in/on your progress you are. Examples of a milestone check could sound like “I am eating healthier starting now, for twice a week, checking in on my progress every Saturday evening” or “I am committed to eating healthier by reducing my sugar intake starting with bubble tea, then including one other sugared drinks/food every consecutive week”.
Plan a check-in for your goal
It is important to plan check-ins for your goal because it helps keep you accountable in bringing your bucket list into fruition. Set a check-in date which is realistic, this means no crazy short time frames, depending on the type of goal you have set. The last thing you want is to be feeling demoralised when you don’t see any progress with an unrealistic time frame. This defeats the purpose of setting a bucketlist and crossing it out.
One of the biggest lessons we learn in life is how to be accountable for our thoughts, words and actions. While self-care can look like skipping your daily workout to relax and watch Netflix, it's more often doing the things that are tough, but we know are ultimately good for us. This is something take requires grit and self-discipline so if you are able to follow through with this independently, you will find crossing out your bucket list extremely empowering.
If you know you need a friend to keep you in check, reach out to a trusted loved one and ask for help to keep you on track!
When filling up a bucket list, it could be helpful to set themes across specific lists or have one with all your life’s wishes placed together. Know that having your list organised helps make it easier to follow through, and prevents it from being overwhelming at a glance during every check-in.
Setting a themed list allows you to breakdown your goals into smaller milestones that can make your overall goal easily attainable. So if living healthier is the goal you could set smaller goals such as “reducing sugar intake”, “stretch more”, “more cardio”. Make sure these milestones, though broken up, are written with all the points listed above!
Measure of success
Having a measure of success tells you when this goal can be crossed out your list. This is all dependent on the type of goal you are setting; if your goal is one that aims to build a routine, a set milestone timeframe could help with your measure of success. If your goal is one that has an activity set as the end goal, then that action being lived out would be your measure of success.
This is going to look different across all your goals so allow yourself to be sure of what it is you wish to attain.
Be certain of your desires
It's essential to have clarity as to why you wish to attain your goals, and more often than not, this ends up being the deciding factor as to whether or not you get to cross them out.
If you know deep down in your bones you truly want for something to come into fruition, ask yourself why this goal being crossed out is important to you. How will you feel upon its completion? Does it feel aligned with what you truly stand for and who you are? These are very important questions which you will need to check-in with yourself with every goal written.
There is no need to fill up a whole bucketlist if half of them are things you don’t wholeheartedly wish for yourself, so only list down the ones you are most certain of, if not in words, in all of your feelings.
Placing all these practices in listing out your goals will change not only the way in which you write your goals, but the language you use in your head, when working on them. The truth in achieving some of these points is in the way you start to live out life in the way that best aligns with you, ultimately from a place of clear intent and knowing.
Here is a printable bucketlist we created for you to start writing down your goals. Share with us the process and outcomes for when you have achieved them, because we would love to celebrate those moments with you!